I'm getting tired of the modern work-life conversation—including the "can women have it all?" question—because so much of it is self-defeating. That's because it often starts from the premise that we either need to choose between being good parents and being good workers or else have to make strategic sacrifices in order to keep both sides of that equation properly "integrated" or in "balance."
Aside from the outsize harm that does to working mothers in particular, it implies there's a division of skills, if not of spheres, that simply isn’t true to life.
